DON’T ASSUME THEY’RE PERFECT
In the early days of a new relationship, you always try a little – or a lot – harder to impress your new partner.
But don’t expect that they will maintain those standards and give the relationship a bit more time before deciding if they’re the one.
Kate Figes, author of books including ‘Couples: How We Make Love Last’, says it’s important to understand and accept that your new partner isn’t infallible.
‘Expecting someone to be everything you need and everything you are not is a recipe for disaster,’ she told The Telegraph.
‘If you can exercise forgiveness in small ways at the start of a love affair then you’re more likely to find ways to forgive the bigger hurts and transgressions, if and when they happen.’
DON’T BE POSSESSIVE
Clinginess is always a turn-off.
Just because you’re newly dating doesn’t mean your partner is obligated to spend all their time with you.
Expecting (or demanding) too much of their time could signal to them that you’re not compatible or that you don’t trust them.
DON’T AVOID SERIOUS DISCUSSIONS
As happy as you might be in your newly coupled up state, it’s important not to avoid discussing the things that could affect the relationship later.
Don’t avoid talking about your long-term goals and ambitions: Do you want to get married? Do you want kids?
They don’t need to happen on the very first date, but shouldn’t be avoided for too long.
Similarly, it’s hard to mention the things that might annoy you about your new partner – whether it’s an embarrassing pet name they have for you or their tendency to always be late – but it’s better to discuss them now before it’s too late.